Full-time student discovered her mother used Apple Pay to steal $4,200 of her tuition savings for rent and beauty appointments, leaving daughter unable to make a required school payment: 'Keeps saying she raised me and I owe her'

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    Woman paying for a her beauty treatment at the salon
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    AITA for losing it on my mom

    EDIT AT THE END. I'm a full-time student with a full-time job & in the summer I will take any and every part-time, while also doing
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    my regular job, just to make sure I can afford school because where I live, there's no such thing as student loans. My mom? She
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    refuses to keep a job beeecause she "can't deal with people" and has to argue with everybody. At my university, tuition is paid in
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    three installments each semester: 60% upfront, then 20% and 20%. The fall semester starts August 25th. Today, I open my school's
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    portal and sat down to pay that first big 60% chunk.. declined, try again.. declined. Confused, I check my bank account... and I'm 4,200 short. Turns out, my mom
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    used my card to pay rent, get her nails done and a facial. didn't tell me, didn't ask. FULLY knowing that the payment deadline is 21st.
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    She knew exactly how much I had and that it was earmarked for tuition and bills. This was after she'd already frustrated the life
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    out of me earlier, she went grocery shopping, and I told her not to spend more than 250 because we're barely scraping by
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    to cover bills this month, spends 340 and completely ignores what I said. she didn't apologize. She didn't even look guilty. Instead, pulls the
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    single mom victim card, yells at me and starts her daily song and dance about how she "raised me," how I "owe" her, and how I'm "being dramatic" & should just
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    utilise the time I have until the deadline to make more money instead of arguing with her. like money grows on trees.
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    Woman lying with her head on the table after discovering she has no money
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    Only-Ingenuity 7889 How did she get access? Is she on your bank account? If so, either remove her immediately or open a separate independent account. NTA. I'm so sorry she sc ed you over.
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    sukepemoripijutk OP had my card on her Apple Pay.
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    Green-Season-7117 If that's not a shared account, please press charges. She does not deserve to get away with this
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    sarahwalka If you're already paying the rent and the groceries, then what is she doing there? She's just your broke little roommate, and not contributing to rent
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    emanon256 NTA. I had a past partner who had a mom like that and still tried to pull it as an adult. It really drove a wedge between them. The mom continued to say she owed her, after pulling s t like the OPs mom including stealing tuition money. The mom also bragged about all she did to raise her. OP, sorry you are in this situation. You sound like you are being far kinder than you should.
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    Hotrepresentitive_ NTA You don't owe her anything, she chose to be a mom and part of the responsibility of being parent is to raise their kid. Again, You. Don't. Owe. Her. Anything. If that was your personal account, I would press charges. She's not your child, however she is acting like it.
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    Lost Reactioon She stole your tuition money knowing the deadline and didn't care. That's not being dramatic that's a financial sabotage. Protect your account and set hard boundaries.
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    crankyKoko Not the ah! You do NOT owe your mom anything. Start changing all your passwords for EVERYTHING! Change banks. Check your credit score to make sure she's not ruining you. Move out. Block her on everything and press theft charges on her.
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    Specialist-Ostrich91 Yes, you blocked her access. That's enough. Don't give in if she insists on access again. Tell her you have only enough money for school. She will stop asking for more if she wants you to succeed. This is an insight from a mother. Her priority should be your wellbeing!
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    bkwormtricia You need a card and a bank account that hour mom has NO access to. And report these to the credit card company as fraudulent charges. Hopefully they can pull the money back from the landlord so you can pay your tuition. YOU earned that money.
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    popcorn 717 I am so angry for you. She is a terrible mother to do that to her child...especially for nails and a facial.

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